I felt to write a message about separation and how it affects us in ways we may not yet be aware of.
This started off being a short message but very little I write these days is short as I need to research for my own growth and the aim is to provide the bigger picture for us to compassionately see ourselves and our environment and heal from things that have kept us trapped in our pain. I hope that something here will speak to your soul within this healing space today as separateness, loneliness and disagreeable breakups from people we attach ourselves to are happening in epic proportions. It’s causing a lot of pain and people are shutting down and I hope to help us look more deeply into what is going on and help ourselves to help others restore beautiful easy and warm human relationships of all kinds, that nourish and uplift us.
The kind of relationships we yearn with our heart to have with all that we meet and I believe are very possible to restore closeness and trust, as we heal the programs that cause us to divide from one another and reset our human alignment with soul.
My view of separateness is essentially anything that causes us to feel seperate from another is concepts of separateness that we have learned from others.
It manifests as issues we have with others and almost always stems from a belief that people should be and think as we do and to the extent that the differences affect or threaten us, is the strength of how we separate we feel from them.
If we see this from an energy perspective we can see lines are continually splitting and creating new divisions within divisions. It’s intriguing that the lines splitting images and objects have become common place recently in fashion and government imagery like these public transport images from the website and on the buses and trains. You may have seen this splitting of imagery around your area too.
It makes me wonder if levels of intelligence use this knowledge to symbolically influence us, which may sound a bit woo woo to some and others will have likely already noticed this. To understand the concept of how symbols affect us I can recommend a series called “How Art Made The World.” I see some YouTube episodes available. I will write more about this as I believe we need to first see what it is that we need to free ourselves from.
“Images dominate our lives. They tell us how to behave, even how to feel. They mould and define us.” – Nigel Spivey from How Art Made The World
The division of humans as we know has been developing for some time and the physical manifestations are sub-divisions, minority groups, and any label we give to people who identify with a particular group that somehow differentiates from the majority of people in an area/country/continent.
There are other divisions that we may not see as clearly, but feel them as differences to others, such as tastes in things we like and how we actualise them within our physical expression. This is particularly prevalent when we desire to use forms like clothing, jewellery, makeup, hair expression, body art, the breed of dog, type of car, style of house, suburb, educational qualifications, etc., to define and reinforce the identity we wish to project.
What we often see accompanies this reliance on physical expression for our identity/personality is that we rely more and more on ego to create and maintain the personality we wish to express to the outside world. Some of us have learned to live this way and it appears normal to do so, sometimes we do these things to cope with feeling inadequate about who we are and / or simply not knowing who we are. Many of us unsure of who we are and those of us struggling with self-esteem, find using an image of something laid over the top of us becomes essentially a mask we can wear to cope with the world that appears critical and judgmental and from our perspective, based on structures of hierarchy and power.
Essentially underlying this is a strong drive, linked to survival, to receive what we need from the world and we have been conditioned to believe that we need to work harder to active acceptance and admiration from people around us (essentially love, respect and human warmth), as we may have learned that who we really are inside is not enough and / or flawed and unloveable.
The problem we face with the mask linked to ego though, is we can become more brittle and less tolerant towards those who challenge us and cause us pain. I’m not judging any of us who are affected by this framework of operation, because it is more prevent than we may first realise. It’s the reason why people are accepting the selfie photos as norm and play tit for tat likes, as we try ever harder every day to find ways to receive the necessary units of love energy.
The differences may be the hardest to overcome as people are essentially trying to build a life and home that is an extension of their mask, so that when people come along to threaten this image – including those closest to us – partner and children and even family of origin – who threaten to undo the hard work we’ve done to create and uphold the mask. We can literally see this as a direct threat to our survival and what we need to do the get what we need from the world. The issues are generally around control and this is why many of us find it hard to live and let live and let people be who they are without trying to change them. People who have problems with control issues in their relationships and they spend lots of time trying to pull the other one around to their way to thinking may eventually end up in couples counselling or breaking apart when the strain becomes too much.
The sad thing is we come toward people with masks and we fall in love with those masks as a reflection of our own mask, thinking we have found the perfect one for us or we may settle for someone who ticks more boxes than others we have met before them. Often without healing what’s deep inside us first as we’ve been conditioned to look outside of us for healing – convinced that we are inadequate and this is never true, it’s just that we’ve not been shown the skills or had a teacher who can reach us yet – we may simply not be ready yet for the teacher and that’s OK.
Before I go to the next part I feel to share with you that am just as affected as any of us are with this programming. I don’t think we can live in this current paradigm and not have been affected in some way by this and many other harmful programs. The best can do for ourselves and our peace of mind-body-soul is to heal ourselves from our wounds, and learn to take off the mask. It takes courage and is a very scary thing to do, but I promise you that the freedom and lightness of being is the most magical thing and you will thank yourself every day for the rest of your life. The more we deny the programming the more it atrophies and as it weakens we are concurrently strengthening ourselves with healthier programs.
The key here may be a little hard for some of us to take in now, but it doesn’t help for me to withhold things we need to see so that we can heal and transcend a wounded and dysfunctional ego. If we can let down our guard a little to see that one of the main reasons we suffer with people who see things and do things differently to us is because we haven’t yet transcended egocentric beliefs that our ways are superior. It’s not our fault we haven’t grown past this stage yet and this is very common so we are not alone with this, as many of us are still suffering with egocentricity and bumping against life instead of looking deeper into what is happening here and developing compassion and understanding for ourselves and our fellow travellers who are learning self-awareness.
It’s compassion energy that reaches through the masks and touches people’s soul to remind them of who they are inside.
All of us have this program to a degree as it has been running for as long as we can remember and is well bound up in beliefs of class and cultural divisions prevent in most places in the world. The more egocentric we are the more we tend to want to control our environments and resisting anything that threatens our way of life and our comforts. It’s often a hard way to live as our free will of our free soul means that many of us feel uneasy with control on deep levels but may compromise for the sake of having some kind of security in the world. To deal with the power balance, some may play games to find an essential equilibrium, such as developing passive-aggressive tendencies, becoming ill, withholding things, or we may agree to have a power imbalance if there is some kind of pay off for us such as not having to make decisions.
To give some balance here, many of us simply aim to avoid behaviour that is not gentle, tender, loving, compassionate and kind, and feels threatening to our health and survival. What I do want to point out is I feel that our views of what is threatening to us have been shifting with the prevalence of building ego personalities and identities, to include other kinds of perceived threats, such as not receiving energy we need to maintain our mask and having to compete with others for energy to feed their own.
Seeing from another’s perspective as well, as some of us have been brought up in environments that are harsh and this way of life is normal to us as we’ve known no different.
If we deliberately hurt others we are on a path of learning that will show us the spiritual law of what we do to others will be done to us. Equally, through no fault of ours, if we have been brought up with being hurt as a normal view of life, then we may hurt others with little awareness and we still need to learn through spiritual laws. The acquisition of wisdom and healthy self preservation and strength of connection with soul, will help us to be compassionate towards ourselves and others who are still learning, and not allow them to affect us as much and eventually not at all. We will also find it easier to refrain from hurting others the more that we heal ourselves.
Learning wisdom and calming our mind and healing our pain helps us to move through life without drawing harmful energy to us.
I feel this is an important subject for those of us who have come to this place on our healing journey where we must look at ourselves if we are to go any further.
We need to also know that our behaviour has been influenced by a great deal of pain our ancestors have endured for hundreds of years and due to us being social learners, we are playing and replaying these pain scrips amongst a myriad of other harmful programs every day.
Once again the aim of is it to help us to see ourselves and the bigger picture in a loving, healing and non-judgemental space. True understanding of these things helps us know that it is not about pointing the finger at ourselves or others, but accepting this is how it has been and all any of us can do now is to heal ourselves and create a different energy for the future.
Remember that many of us have done the same things to get what we need and at the end of the day, it is all what we’ve learned from others who have shown us the possibility of getting what we need from the behaviours we choose. Seeing from the bigger picture helps us let go of guilt and suffering and blame, accepting this is how humanity has developed over time and I believe largely due to learned behaviour from harsh authority.
I always tell people to come back to soul and see through the eyes of soul to know compassion and love that is already within and if you allow your soul to guide to you help remove the mask and heal and deprogram through reprogramming healthy ways of thinking, the Earth will always say yes to what you ask for.
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